6 Steps To Creating A Magnetic Vision Board That Works!

“Your thoughts create your reality-use this tool to assist you in manifesting the life you’ve always dreamed of!

But wait, you may say…”What the heck is a Vision Board and how does it work anyway !?  A Vision Board is a simple, yet powerful visualization tool that you create to help you to achieve your goals and dreams in any and/or all areas of your life, such as: career, health, home, relationships, travel, love, family, the person you wish to become, etc.  A Vision Board is simply a cork board, poster board or flat surface of any size onto which you paste a collage of cut out pictures, drawings, words and other items that you’ve personally selected to represent a picture of the life you want to be living and/or the things you wish to become. This is how you will activate the LAW OF ATTRACTION that will enable you to MANIFEST the life of your dreams!

Have you ever wondered why some people seem to attract all the good fortune?  Why is it that some people are like masters whose desires magically appear just like wishes being granted from a genie in a bottle?  Well, I’m here to tell you that YOU are the MASTER of YOUR DESTINY!  You are constantly creating every second of your life, right here, right now, just by what you’re thinking.  Do you want to change it?  How about an upgrade?   All you have to do is get clear about your HOPES, DREAMS, and WISHES and you CAN change your life for the better, forever!  Vision Boards are one of the most effective tools you can use to start creating real visions of your dream life today!

Here are my 6 easy steps to help you create your very own Vision Board:

 1. Gather your supplies: poster board, variety of magazines, craft glue, scissors, and one of your favorite photos of yourself (to place in the center of your board) and your favorite music.

Optional additions to embellish your board with: stickers, glitter, beads, fabric, ribbon, sketches, photographs, and anything else that makes your board your own.

2.  Begin creating a list of affirmative intentions. First you need to identify your dreams and goals.  Start by asking yourself…WHAT WOULD I REALLY LOVE TO HAVE IN MY LIFE?   Clearly identify your goals and aspirations and the awareness of the sensations you get from achieving them in as much detail as possible.  Remember, you want to suspend your disbelief so you can embrace the sensation and gratitude you feel from manifesting these experiences and what you intend to do as a result achieving those things.

Examples of Areas of Intentions:

Home-Buy a new one, sell one, purchase investment property, redecorate, etc.

Career/school/education/certification-get an advanced degree, start your own business, get a bachelor degree, obtain your real estate license, or make a million dollars in sales!

Health/beauty/body-Lose 20 lbs., get a six pack, have a beautiful smile, have a full head of beautiful healthy hair, fit into a size 4, eternal youth, etc.

Relationships-family, friends, colleagues, love, dating, engagement, marriage, children, happily ever after, etc.

Wealth/Abundance/Material Items-How much, how, what will you do with it?  Buy a new home, new car, new jewelry, new yacht, exotic vacation, new polo ponies, 2nd home, etc.

Extracurricular Activities-Sports, travel, hobbies, write a book, sing, public speaking, take lessons in something, sky diving, pilots license, Olympic gold medal, etc.

The person you wish to become/ your legacy– What legacy would you like to be remembered by? Is it a charity, public office, humanitarian causes, Nobel peace prize, Goodwill Ambassador, Best Selling Author, etc.

Now start writing those goals and aspirations down as a list of affirmative intentions that you want to create in your reality.  I prefer to use affirmative intentions instead of intentions because the affirmative intentions force me out of disbelief and into trusting that everything I hoped for is already conceived and incubating in the cosmos.  Affirmations empower you and begin with “I am” “I can” “I will” and “I have”.  Whereas, intentions begin with “I intend to.”  Don’t use the words don’t, can’t, not, try, or but.  Remember to write your affirmative intentions as if they are happening RIGHT NOW!  Keep writing your affirmative intentions with as much detail and emotion as possible.  I want you to dive deep into your affirmations and conceive, at a cellular level, what it really “feels like” to have all of those things in this very moment!  It is the feeling we strive for most when we set goals, not the goal itself.  Here’s some examples of how I wrote out some affirmative intentions with visualization, feeling and imagery :

  • There is nothing more emotionally and spiritually rewarding to me than the feedback I receive from my followers about the extraordinary impact my positive inspirational blogs and TV segments have made on their lives.  I am elated to be a positive influence in millions of people’s lives through my inspirational speaking, coaching and blogging which has made me feel proud to be one of the most influential inspirational speakers, coaches and bloggers in the world!  I am fulfilled knowing I am making the world a better place to live in by sharing my tips and advice on how to live a more balanced, healthy, happy, positive and successful life!
  • I am always early and/or on-time to appointments, meetings and events.  As a result, I arrive more relaxed and organized and I am more valuable to myself and others.  Now that I realize my worth and I value of myself and my time, I’m not over scheduling myself and I’m able to be of more value to my clients.  As a result, I have become one of the most sought after goal setting coaches in the corporate business world and am helping Fortune 500 companies to double their income and I am personally reaping the financial rewards of their successes because of these results.

3.  Now begin collecting images that match your areas of affirmative intentions from various magazines i.e., Conde Nast Traveler, Vogue, Yoga Journal, Fortune, GQ, etc.  or by googling them if you need additional images or words.

You can sit in a quiet relaxing space and put on your favorite music to make this an enjoyable endeavor.  Start by tearing out any and every image, word or phrase that is in alignment with your affirmative intentions.  Tear out anything that invokes a cheerful, invigorated and optimistic feeling or emotion.  If you see something and it gives you goosebumps, a warm feeling, makes your heart happy or you react with “wow!” “oooooh!” “omg!” “aaaaaah!”, etc. tear it out!!!   Just attempt to flow through this part of the exercise without judging the images or words you choose.  Tear things out based on how it makes you feel without judging them since it is the feelings that are the most powerful part of this tool.  Put all of these images into a folder to sort through and cut out in the next step.

4.  Paste a radiant picture of yourself in the center of your vision board.  Start sorting, selecting, cutting and organizing your images by area of intention.  

Cut out and glue a radiant, happy photo of yourself in the center of your board. Review all your images again, this time keep only the images that conjure up a lot of excitement, ambition and enthusiasm.  Eliminate the images that no longer feel in alignment.   Begin cutting out and laying your words and images on your vision board working from the center photo of yourself outward, by area of intention or scattered if you chose a diffused theme (I like to keep the clippings from the images in a baggie so I can refer to them later to confirm my manifestations since location or other details are sometimes cut off the original images).

5.  Begin gluing everything on your board.  

You can arrange everything with adhesive putty first and then glue with craft glue once you have all of the images in the order you want them.

6.  Hang your vision board somewhere that you will see it everywhere.  

The goal of your vision board is to be a reminder of the things you are hoping to accomplish and the feelings you get from achieving them.  While creating your board is a motivator to achieving your goals, you need to take action to make your goals a reality.  Use the images to create a plan of action and then start doing what you need to do to turn those plans into a reality.  By viewing your vision board on a regular basis, and remembering the feelings you get from accomplishing your goals, you are maintaining focus and reminding yourself of what you hope to accomplish and more importantly the feeling you will have by obtaining these goals.  It is the feeling we are most attracted to with the outcome of a goal…not the goal itself.

Please share all of your vision board success stories in the comments below.  I love hearing all of your success stories and your stories of manifestations will help to inspire my followers too!

Happy Manifesting!  Wishing you all the BEST year in 2018 and the years to follow!

Make sure to checkout my guest appearance on Good Morning San Diego with everything you need to know about creating your very own Vision Board for 2018, so you can begin manifesting the life you’ve always dreamed of having. Sonya Berg Vision Boards 

Closing Day Style Guide

The most important day of the polo season is right around the corner on Sunday, September 28, 2014…  Closing Day & USPA Spreckles Cup Finals!

Polo is a fashionable affair and packed with family-friendly fun! Polo’s elite and luxury lifestyle makes it the perfect venue to see and be seen in your most elegant styles and chic fashions.

Right about now you’re probably thinking decisions…decisions…. what to wear for Closing Day of Polo? Sonya Berg, also known as the Zen Fashionista, has prepared the Ultimate Style Guide for how to dress for Closing Day.

Zen Fashionista’s 8 Style Tips for Closing Day of Polo:

Red is the color of the day on Closing Day and will match the beautiful scarlet red roses that fill the Spreckles Cup trophy and coats of the lead fox huntsman. Think true red, raspberry, ruby, burgundy, brick red, crimson, cherry, candy apple red and any shade in between.

ACCESSORIZE: Feel free to get creative and playful here. Can’t find the perfect red dress? Try a jacket, hat, ring, shoe, pocket square, sunglasses, clutch or any other accessory. You can even paint your nails red and wear a matching red lipstick. I love Dior Rouge 999 and Pandore 754 for a classic red lip and nail. Silver, black and white are other suggested colors to mix with your red on Closing Day of Polo.

It could get chilly at dusk when your dancing the night away with the talented DJ Beatnick who will be spinning the beats. Don’t forget to bring a wrap like this Versace scarf or any other lightweight cashmere wrap, sweater or elegant jacket to throw over your shoulders. The after party is a perfect ending to perfect day of action packed fun and thrilling polo adventure!  Enjoy a refreshing cocktail while dancing on the grass.  You’ll even have a chance to mix and mingle with the professional polo players and patrons to complete your Closing Day of Polo experience.

Wear A Fabulous Hat or a Fun Fascinator 

 Closing Day, September 28th is also Hat Day! If you’ve been searching for the perfect occasion to wear your favorite hat, this is it. Ladies can wear elegant wide brimmed hats embellished with feathers and organza silk to provide sun protection and make a unique fashion statement. Fascinators are whimsical, fun and easy to wear. Like this little black fascinator trimmed with ruby red feathers.

There’s still enough time for last minute shopping to find a beautiful hat or fascinator to wear to Closing Day. All of the hats and fascinators pictured are designed by the amazing Jill Courtemanche Millinery.

Gentlemen grab your fedoras for an added touch of class and style to your Closing Day Polo attire.

Wear Wedges or Flat Sandals  

Remember ladies, you’ll be sipping champagne and stomping divots at half time, so leave those stilettos at home! Not only are stilettos a fashion faux pas at polo, they can also make half time divot stomping very complicated. For comfort and style while enjoying a fun day on the grass try a red or metallic wedge or an elegant crystal embellished flat sandal instead.

Wear Simple Flowing and Elegant Sundresses and Skirts

A sundress that’s simple, feminine and elegant is perfect for viewing a polo match on a sunny afternoon. A body conscious knit dress that’s cool and breathable in crimson red is a perfect choice for the red theme on Closing Day.

Can’t find a red dress? Opt for a dress in neutral hues like cream, pearl, silver, black or white for a classic and timeless look. This elegant hand beaded shift dress in white is perfect for Closing Day when paired with a lipstick red Chanel clutch, hat and nails.

Feeling feminine? This intricate lace shift dress does best paired with metallic wedges and accented with a bright red hat.

Men Wear Sport coats, Patterned Shirts and Bowties

A crisp collared shirt and slacks will work just fine for the men. If you want to dress to impress, try a sports coat in any shade of red like this crimson sports coat and matching tie.

You can also wear a classic black and white checked sports coat accented with a scarlet pocket square, shoes and belt. Slim fit suits, bowties and other preppy attire are always stylish for men to wear to Closing Day.

Tailgater Style Is More Casual and Relaxed

If you’ve decided to enjoy Closing Day of Polo tailgating from the back of your car and picnicking with family and friends, the attire is much more casual and relaxed here. Women often wear casual sundresses in light and breezy fabrics with straw hats for sun protection and simple leather sandals or flip-flops.

Want to stay with the red theme for Closing Day? Choose a red sundress or accent your attire with any red accessory. Casual khakis with a red t-shirt and cotton or linen shorts in any shade of red worn with boat shoes or flip-flops are a good option for men tailgaters. Jeans are also an option for casual tailgating.

Children Dress to Impress

Pull out those comfortable party dresses in shades of red, silver, black and/or white. Boys will look dapper in chinos or a red colored cotton slacks with a patterned crisp collared shirt with red accents or in any shade of red. Girls and boys should wear comfortable dressy casual shoes. Think pretty sandals, flats in red or neutral hues and boat shoes for boys.

Wear Big Sunglasses

What’s more glamorous than a pair of oversized sunglasses? Big sunglasses give your face a mysterious movie-star look while providing extra protection from the sun. For show-stopping style, choose an oversized crystal embellished sunglass in red. Men, smaller stylish glasses are on trend and dress up any outfit.

Most of all, have fun and get ready to watch the finals of the USPA Spreckels Cup!

Womens Clothing: Matti D, Del Mar CA (exceptions: scarf by Versace, black satin dress by Maggi B)

Mens Clothing: Mister B’s, Del Mar CA

Hats and Fascinators:  Jill Courtemanche Millnery

Hair and Makeup Artist: Mua Rene Gonzales

Photographer- Quentin Anderson 619-796-1010 (exception: last photo by Topher Riley)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What to Wear to Opening Day of Polo

Hey all you fashionista, socialite, A-list, people watching, adrenaline junkies out there…the day you’ve all been waiting for is finally here! Mark your calendars for the 30th Annual Opening Day of Polo on Sunday, June 5th, 2016!

You may be wondering, but what’s so amazing about Opening Day of Polo? Well, I’m here to tell you, it’s by far one of San Diego’s most attended, fashionable and captivating extravaganzas of the summer! With over 4000 spectators in attendance, the Player’s Lounge styled by Modern Luxury and VIP tent will be swarming with beautiful people including jet setters and some of San Diego’s most elite socialites, dashing hipsters and celebrities.

There’s always a soul-buzzing vibe created by the horses charging down the field, the solid click of mallets on the ball and the clinking of champagne glasses and divot stomping at half time (yes, that’s right, just like Julia Roberts did in “Pretty Woman”). Of course, there’s plenty of food and libations for glamorous guest to enjoy while they’re busy socializing and taking selfies. If laid back is more your style, join friends in the general admission area with picnic tables, craft cocktails and giant jenga! No matter where you sit, Opening Day of Polo has something for everyone. It’s a place where new friends meet and old friends and family reconnect and celebrate.

Now, how are we going to get you looking chic and on point for Opening Day of Polo? Let’s start with the basics….

1. Wear Hats.

Wide brimmed straw hats and fedoras! Opening Day of Polo tends to be a bit more relaxed in style than Opening Day at the Races. Hats help to provide protection from the sun and add a more polished look to your attire. For a sophisticated and classic polo style, stick with unembellished and simple less structured wide brimmed straw hats and fedora.

2. Wedges, espadrilles, chunky heels or flat sandals.

Remember ladies; half time divot stomping is a polo tradition and a ton of fun to boot! If you don’t want to turn you champagne sipping, selfie taking, divot stomping escapade into a perilous experience…then wear wedges or flat sandals and leave those stilettos at home!

3. Stay on trend: dresses, skirts, jumpsuits, palazzo pants and rompers.

Ladies remember if your watching polo from the Player’s Lounge styled by Modern Luxury  or the VIP tent, dress in refined and classy styles.This Nicole Miller lace jumpsuit is the perfect VIP fresh and feminine silhouette. Micro pleats were all the rage on the spring 2016 NY fashion week runway. Look in vogue while keeping your cool wearing flowing styles like this ivory pallazo pant combined with a green micro pleat strapless top.

4. Lighten it up with various shades of white, or go bold with bright colors, prints or patterns!

Monochromatic ensembles in shades of crisp white and crème look sophisticated and elegant for polo and they keep you cool in the sunlight. If you want to look in vogue in monochromatic hues then choose one of spring and summers current fashions like this trendy, powder white eyelet romper; notice the statement bell sleeves! Both of these other looks are perfect for Opening Day and very fashionable. Keep it classy with a touch of sass, this pearl white lace jumpsuit with plunging neckline is a must! Looking for a romantic twist? Try this romantic eggshell lace dress with a beautiful open back.Go bold or go home! Opening Day of Polo is the day to sport those vibrant, jewel toned colors that look great when you’re striking a pose with your girlfriends.

Feeling flirty? Try a playful patterns, which are a fun alternative to solid colored attire. If Boho Chic is your style, this whimsical floral print dress is flowy and looks hip with a trend setting suede fringe hobo bag and a fedora. Other prints to try for your Opening Day of polo look are oversized bright graphic prints, colorful tropical prints and polka dots.

 

5. Wear lightweight fabrics like cotton, silk and linen that are breathable.

Your choice of fabric is just as important as the color, shape, style and accessories of your summertime polo viewing outfit. You want to stay cool while looking chic and protecting your skin from too much direct sunlight.Organic or natural fibers absorb moisture from the skin and allow it to evaporate. In contrast, synthetic fibers are water repellent, which results in evaporation reduction, unsightly perspiration rings, discomfort and irritation. Cotton, linen, silk and even rayon are all excellent choices because they’re lightweight and breathable fabrics and help to keep you cool. For additional comfort on a hot sunny day at Opening Day of Polo choose a summer outfit with cut outs or a large open weave, like eyelet or lace. Flared skirts; billowy dresses, skirts and pants; halter dresses; strapless dresses and other sleeveless options are other styles that will keep you cool while looking fashion forward.

6. Don’t forget to accessorize with trendy sunglasses, playful color coordinating accessories, a wrap, stylish hair, manicured nails and pared down radiant makeup.
We talked about hats and shoes, but there’s so much more to play with. Want to create instant movie star mystery, intrigue and glamour? Start by donning a pair of trendy oversized, mirrored lenses or embellished sunglasses and voila! Add a chic chunky collar necklace with streamlined leather straps and crafted from shimmering resin beads; they’re versatile enough to go from day to night and casual to dressy. It could get a little chilly at dusk so don’t forget to bring a pretty summer wrap, shawl, sweater or jacket, in a complementary print or monochromatic color, to throw over your shoulders when the sun is setting and your dancing the night away at the 7th Chukker After Party! And last, but definitely not least, make sure your hair, nails and make-up leaves you feeling fresh and beautiful out in the sun on Opening Day! Beautiful fresh skin and minimalist makeup with a natural luminous base is trending for summer.

Now that all of your stunning polo viewing sirens have the look down, go throw on your Louboutins and flaunt your beautiful self at Opening Day of Polo on June 5th!

Can’t wait to see you there!

The San Diego Polo Club Hits the Town!

Recap of USPA Spreckels Cup Finals & Closing Day of Polo presented by Woodford Reserve

Posted on October 8, 2014 by Beyond Polo and Into the Community

The San Diego Polo Club (SDPC) celebrated the end of their 28th season in Rancho Santa Fe with the United States Polo Association (USPASpreckels Cup & Closing Day presented by Woodford ReserveHeels2Heal was the exclusive charity partner with specific ticket and auction proceeds benefiting San Diego Youth Services.

Gates opened at 12:30pm and guests were lined up as early as 9:30am itching to get a good spot to watch the final match at 2pm. Players and VIPs mingled in the Woodford Reserve Lounge and sipped on bourbon infused specialty cocktails as they took awe of the 105 year old Spreckels trophy that was on display with hundreds of beautiful garden and piano roses overflowing the cup.

The VIP tent was filled with 500 guests, including players, family, friends, sponsors, and of course, the Heels2Heal guests right in the front row. Over 1,300 guests piled into the venue, dressed to the nines in red accents, hats and chic polo outfits.

The day started out with a classic demonstration of rider and foxhounds, presented by the Santa Fe Hunt. Established in 1969, the Santa Fe Hunt/West Hills Hounds is a Masters of Fox Hounds Association recognized Hunt located in Temecula, California. They are a diverse group of riders brought together by love of horses, open spaces, country values and riding with a fine pack of foxhounds as they work a scent. The San Diego Polo Club is honored to welcome back Terry Paine and the Santa Fe Hunt every year.

Next up was the highly anticipated fashion show presented by Heels2Heal chair and polo player, Sonya Berg the Zen Fashionista.

Sonya is a TV Personality, Fashion & Lifestyle Blogger, Fashion Show Designer & Producer, and philanthropist. Her “Sexy Socialite News Girls Pre-Fall Fashion Show” featured the San Diego News Girls, including Brandi Williams, Kimi Evans, Natasha Sweattle, Sabrina Fein, Tabitha Lipkin, and Staci Ortiz-Davis. Over 20 female models and 10 male models featured fall fashions from Matti DNicole MillerMister B’sJill Courtemanche Millinery, TRE, and Van de Vort.

After the fashion show, guests were encouraged to grab a drink at the bar or get a bite to eat and settle in for the final match of the season, the USPA Spreckels Cup Finals.

Five teams had been competing for the chance to play in the 105 year old tournament, The USPA sanctioned Spreckels Cup. On September 28th, 2014 the top two teams fought it out for the title of Spreckels Champions. After weeks of competing for a spot in the final game, Starmeadow/Roseville Motor Car and Twin Palms took the field for the final tournament of 2014.

Anthony Ballard did the honors of singing the national anthem during our Opening Ceremonies. With over 25 years’ experience, Anthony’s diverse background spans opera, musical theatre, non-musicals, tap, jazz and ballet. Anthony is an active member of the San Diego Opera’s Core Chorus and has appeared in over 50 San Diego arts productions since moving to the area in 1993.

After the anthem, Suzanne Brown from Woodford Reserve did the honors of throwing in the ceremonial first ball and starting off the first chukker!

The first goal of chukker one was scored by Graham “the big guns” Bray for Starmeadow. Twin Palms’ Gaston Von Wernich was right behind him, scoring for his team. Playing for the trophy, Von Wernich scored the next three goals in chukker two.

Ashton Wolf made a comeback, scoring two goals for Starmeadow. Chukker three started with a goal from Twin Palms’ Ryan Robertson. Colton Bancroft fired back, scoring one for Starmeadow. Not one to back down easily, Robertson scored the remaining goal of chukker three, lengthening his team’s lead. At halftime, the scores were Starmeadow 4 / Twin Palms 6.

 

During the traditional “Pretty Woman Divot Stomp,” guests enjoyed a sample of Korbel California Champagne as they mingled with friends and replaced the divots that were kicked up by the horses during the first half of the game.

Plowing ahead in chukker four, Robertson again scored. Passing the reins to teammate Von Wernich, Twin Palms scored their 8th goal of the game; Von Wernich’s 5th.

Like chukker four, chukker five belonged to Twin Palms. Alvaro Tadeo scored first for his team. Robertson picked up the second goal. Going into the last chukker, the score was Starmeadow 4 / Twin Palms 10.

In chukker six, Starmeadow fought back hard. Bancroft scored first, followed by two goals from Ashton Wolf. Following suit, Graham Bray scored narrowing the lead Twin Palms had on his team.

The final goal was scored by Tadeo of Twin Palms. Adding in team handicaps, Starmeadow ended with nine goals. Though Starmeadow fought hard, Twin Palms was on fire. They came to win and with eleven goals, they did just that.

Watch post-game interviews with Colton Bancroft and Alvaro Tadeo by Mikki & Shay.

Both teams joined together on the trophy deck for the Trophy & Awards Presentation. First off was the most improved player award, which was awared to Virgil Kyle by previous president and founding member, Ron Bonaguidi. Kyle has excelled in his skill level in 2014.

Second was the sportsmanship award, which went to one of our newest members, who has displayed courtesy and sportsmanship to his fellow players. Eric Hammon was the recipient of this great award.

Our founding father, Willis Allen was very instrumental in encouraging young players to get involved in the sport of polo. The San Diego Polo Club created his namesake award to honor Willis and congratulate the best all-around young player under 30 based on horsemanship, sportsmanship and playing ability. Judy Collins, daughter of Willis Allen, presented this award to 17-year old Colton Bancroft.

Out of the 48+ horses played in Sunday’s polo match, the best playing pony is just that– the best pony out there. Gail Greggson of the California Thoroughbred Breeder’s Foundation presented the trophy to Graham Bray for his horse P1. This horse has won 4 best playing pony awards in the last two years!

Torry Spreckels is the great granddaughter of John D. Spreckels. She and her daughter Jessica and granddaughter Molly presented the second place team with the Spreckels trophies. Both Molly and Jessica play polo today, carrying on the Spreckels family tradition. Christine Wuthrich, the great great grand daughter of John D. Spreckels also helped present the trophies.

All of the players were then welcomed onto the stage and everyone was gifted with a nice bottle of Woodford Reserve, a small-batch straight bourbon distilled in central Kentucky. The distillery itself is a national historical monument!

Jose Luis & Lovie Rocha, owners of  JL Rocha, have been designing and manufacturing handmade leather shoes & jackets for over 3 generations in Mexico and now they are in the United States. Lovie & Jose Luis presented each of the winning players with a fine lambskin jacket from their collectioncompletely made by hand.

Scott Walker, USPA Lieutenant Governor for Southern California, presented the winning teams with their trophies as well as awarded Most Valuable Player of the game to Gaston von Wernich!

Guests stayed until dark, dancing and partying with polo players and members. DJ Beatnick kept the energy up and rocked the beats for one of the best after parties in history!

Photos by Jim Bremner & Topher Riley. To see more, visit us on Facebook.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

6 Steps to Self-Care and Why It’s So Important

After a couple of years of over extending myself with one volunteer, social or charity event after another, I’ve finally decided to take a few months off to take care of me, my home, my family, my friendships and my foundation. So for those of you who are wondering “WHERE HAS SONYA BEEN?” I’d like to share the following thought with all of you:

Have you taken time to take care of you lately? When is the last time you were truly present in your life? When is the last time you really listened to your children, your friends, your family, your significant other and/or your co-workers? It’s really hard, isn’t it? You have so many places to be, people to see and things to do. It can be draining and it can leave you feeling empty and exhausted when you’re on that gerbil wheel of “can’t stop won’t stop!”. Only you can make the choice to STOP and stop saying “Yes” to everyone and everything so you can take time out to truly nurture and love yourself and enjoy life to the fullest. It’s in these moments of self-care that you recharge and are then able to nurture and love those people, places and things in your life that truly need you.

Here’s a few tips to help you to remember how to care for yourself and enjoy the simple things in life:

1. Love yourself first and the rest will follow.

Treat yourself with the respect and care that you deserve.  When you give yourself the things you need that make you feel good instead of expecting it from things and others outside of yourself, you become the master of your own destiny and a mirror for those outside of yourself.  Once you raise your own standards of how you treat yourself, you will accept no less from others.  Whether it’s kind self-talk, loving yourself unconditionally, bringing yourself flowers or treating yourself to a massage.  Once you start practicing how you would like to be treated and you start giving yourself the things you would like more of in your life, you will naturally attract those things to you.

2. Enjoy life to the fullest.

Be present in the moment, in your life, with your loved ones and with everyone you encounter. Instead of just going through the motions each day commit to being aware and appreciating your experiences along with the sights, sounds, colors and feelings you encounter in each moment. Take time to listen to your loved ones and make sure that your really hearing what they have to say.  After I lost my dear Grandmother several years back, I realized how much I had missed during our conversations because I wasn’t really present and was always thinking of the things I had to do. The stories she shared about the great depression, what she wore on her wedding day, her work as a missionary and some of her favorite secret family recipes.  Oh what I would do today to have those conversations with her again!  You can bet I would hear every last word of her stories! I would also be taking notes during her secret family recipe chats!

3. Be authentic.

Be yourself.  Acknowledge your efforts and achievements.  Eliminate negative self-talk. Instead of looking to others to make you feel good about yourself, do whatever you need to do to feel comfortable in your own skin and to become the best version of “you” possible.  It’s an invaluable gift you offer yourself when you step into and appreciate who you really are, your own self-worth and the unique gifts you have to offer to the world.

Nurture and attend to your valuable relationships.

Be selective about who you share your energy with and ensure that those relationships are offering an equal exchange of energy. If any of your relationships leave you feeling drained and empty that’s a sure sign that you are engaged in an unhealthy one-sided relationship.  Hang onto the relationships that make you feel good and lift you higher and let go of those that don’t.

4. Every morning when you wake up choose to “BE HAPPY”.

That one thought can change your whole day!  Remember, you are the leading actor and the director of this movie of your life and you have the power to choose how it plays out simply by focusing on what you wish to create. Do you want to live a happy, joyful, prosperous, harmonious, loving and abundant life?  Well then, what are you waiting for?   This is your movie…and you get to tell the lead actor how you intend to manifest your goals.  Once you get clear about what you want to create in your life, you will be surprised at how quickly the magic will begin to unfold.

5. Take care of YOU first.

Whether it’s through meditation, yoga, gardening, a walk in nature, surfing, traveling (note to self:)), writing or anything else that quiets your busy mind…it’s important to stop and clear your head and answer to no one else but YOU at least once a day.  Learn to set healthy boundaries with others and say “NO” whenever necessary so you can take care of your own mind, body and spirit.  It’s in these moments of silence that you recharge your soul and can then offer the same to the people that you care about.

6. Lastly, DONT SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF:)!  Life is way too short!

4 Steps to Creating Your “Dream-Life”

Today I thought I would share with all of you my little secret behind why I try “LIKE HECK” to stay positive ALL OF THE TIME no matter how bad the situation may seem! I seek out the SILVER LINING IN EVERY SITUATION (good, bad and the ugly:))!

Did you know that every EXPERIENCE in your life has been ATTRACTED to you by your THOUGHTS? What would you like to change in your life TODAY?? Did you know it’s up to you to start CHANGING the way you think????

1. Do you want HEALTHIER, HAPPIER, AND MORE LOVING ROMANTIC/PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS????

Then start thinking about those types of healthy relationships and the wonderful love ❤ you look forward to and deserve in your life. What kind of LOVE do you want to receive? Do you want sweet phone calls, do you want emotional support, do you want honesty, do you want romance? Whatever you want in your relationships start giving that today and start leading by example. Think about every detail down of your ideal relationship… what do they look like, what do they act like, how do they treat you, and act like you already have that.  STOP thinking about the ones you don’t want and/or the ones who let you down…. let go of those thoughts and start creating your dream relationship today!

2. Do you want MORE PROSPERITY and ABUNDANCE IN YOUR LIFE????

Then start thinking about the things you will do to create that prosperity and imagine it’s already happening. How will you act? What will you do when your life is full of the prosperity you deserve? STOP thinking about all the things that have gone wrong and what you don’t have or how much more someone has than you:)!  There really is enough of everything for everyone! What are your goals for this new found prosperity? Would you buy your dream home or your dream car? Would you start a business? Would you travel the world? Would you give a portion to your favorite charity? Start planning for your future abundance and prosperity now✨!

3. Do you want a BETTER RELATIONSHIP with your FAMILY, CHILDREN, BOSS and/or FRIENDS?

Then start acting that way and imagine exactly how you want to relate to those people in your life. STOP thinking about how they did you wrong or how bad they have been to you or what they haven’t done for you. Forgive them and start loving ❤ them unconditionally. Understand that people only treat you the way they feel about themselves and start leading by example. If you keep loving ❤ them no matter what…they can’t help but be kind back…you loving them, will assist them in loving themselves which=loving you and others back❤!

4. Do you want a HEALTHIER and MORE FIT STRONG BODY, PRETTIER YOUNGER LOOKING SKIN, FULLER HEALTHIER HAIR, WHITER/STRAIGHTER TEETH, a more BEAUTIFUL/HANDSOME FACE, etc. ??

Then focus on exactly what you want to create and see you in your mind’s eye exactly as the person you will become. Flat stomach, tone legs, 6 pack, strong body, younger looking skin AND ALL! Keep sending those messages to your body, especially when your exercising and/or making healthy food choices. The more details of exactly how you want to see your body/face, etc., the quicker you will manifest your dream body and face:)! STOP complaining about your belly fat, your flabby arms, the 5lbs. you’ve gained, your fine lines and your chubby thighs. You will manifest whatever you think about! Are you ready to create a whole new healthy and fit body, mind and appearance???

STOP THINKING ABOUT ALL OF THE THINGS YOU DON’T WANT and START THINKING ABOUT ALL OF THINGS YOU WANT AND ALREADY HAVE!!! Even if you don’t have all of these things yet, start acting like you do and seeing in your mind’s eye that you do! You have the power to attract the things you want in your life to you!  I know you CAN DO THIS FRIENDS:)))! This is the “Law of Attraction”! Happy Monday friends! Now I’m off to get ready for another awesome horse polo season:)!!! Wishing you a world of everything your heart desires!